You don't seem to be taking your own "advice"... considering the attitude behind your comments. In the real world, there is this thing called "good manners". Without exception, those who have good manners tend to get far and are well received. They know how to treat other people well... It is a street that goes *both* ways.
Most people do not like "blind invites" because it can be seen as rude... and disruptive.
However... it is wrong to "crucify" someone over a "blind invite". If you get a blind invite, you can simply decline and move on.
[i]Nothing can seem extraordinary until you have discovered what is ordinary.[/i] - C.S. Lewis
[i]Saruman believes it is only great power that keeps evil in check, but that is not what I have found. I have found that it is the small things... the actions of ordinary folk... that keeps the darkness at bay.[/i] - Gandalf
I remember the "One Kin to Rule Them All" contest that ran shortly after I returned to the game after a break ... it was utter chaos. Practically everywhere I'd go, I'd get bombarded with kin invitations, and it got so I could hardly hunt, they were so numerous! While I have not had this happen in some time, I remember thinking that a blind drive to get warm bodies into a kin could end in a disaster of major proportions ...
'Blind' fellow requests are another story, in my thinking. When on of those pops up, the first thing I do is look at the levels of those already in the fellow. Then I reply back to the person sending the invitation, asking what the are tackling to need a player so much higher in level. Quite often the answer has something to do with me killing everything so they can do the quest. The fact that the person they invited gets nothing for their time (just a simple thank you is fine with me) totally escapes them. Now if someone says they've been trying, but mob xxxx keeps wiping the party out, I'm more likely to offer to help them, provided I'm not in the middle of something else. I've also tied to explain to them that telling someone the quest they need help with is nice, just because someone has attained a higher level does not mean they know every quest from their lower level playing time! Some understand, others get pretty rude ...
Why can't we all just play nice and show others some courtesy?
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Today is a good day for Pie.
Do not meddle in the affairs of Burglars, for they are subtle and quick to shank you.
"No sadder words of tongue or pen are the words: 'Might have been'." -- John Greenleaf Whittier
"Do or do not. There is no try." -- Yoda
Indeed, in a world and life full of change, the only constant is human nature (A is A, after all :P).
We old vets need to keep in mind those who come after us.
Now back to your regular scheduled programing.
I never answer those ninja invites. For the kinship where I am in at the moment, the leader just started to talk with me, and so later he asked me to join. I am now in this kin for almost 2 years, and I still love it there.
On an other server I accidentally accepted a ninja invite. But I still wanted to try out the kin. Maybe there were nice people in there, you never know. But no, no one was never very helpful and most of them were so incredibly rude. So I left the kin, and made a own kinship with a friend of mine. With just all our alts in it, so we didn't get any kin invites hehe.
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