On the issue of farming: There are long threads full of vitriol about this... I myself have been overly rude about it in the past. I don't approve of the practice - but the long story short is that it wouldn't be an issue if Turbine would get their collective heads out of their hind ends. Mocking farmers and what not only brings them unneeded attention.
As for the general community, I do sympathize with you somewhat: creep side is typically more friendly and group oriented because A) there have traditionally had fewer people and B) things get unbalanced in freeps favor whenever they introduce new raid gear etc.. In the past, creeps have HAD to group up consistently simply to survive, and that kind of open community persists even when they are arguably stronger.
Freepside, most 85s have made friends long before they go out in the Moors... They tend to go in small groups not because they hate n00bs or think you stink, but because they're PVMPing not only for the game, but to pal around with their buds. On creepside, you make your friends in the Moors. You quest together in the Moors. There are no instances to have specific fellowship makeups for. There is no gear to grind out with other players. When I don't invite people to group in the Moors, it's not cause I hate them - It's because most of the time I go out there, I go with kinmates I'm talking to in Vent. Many times new players come out to the Moors with a sense of entitlement: "I am here. So you MUST group with me." They then proceed to get angry at those who enjoy soloing or are with a small group of friends don't want to raid up. Then they spend 30 minutes in GV complaining. I have been one of the worst offenders on this account: I enjoy healing, so I get annoyed when people don't want to get healed (especially since I didn't even get credit for heals out of group back in the day.) Here's what I came to realize: 1) I was more likely to get a group if I STARTED one than if I begged for one 2) There is one freep class that can truthfully say they can't hold their own solo in the Moors: Guards. Everyone else has a solo spec that will rip low rank creeps to shreds. If nobody will group, put on some music and solo. Then giggle at the trolling in GLFF.
As I side note about healing... This isn't specifically aimed at you, but rather a general PSA: Being healed by healer in the Moors is a privilege, not a right. Not all minis and rks are heal-specced. The absolute quickest way to have every healer in chat never aim another HoT or bubble at you again is to type "&&&? Where were my heals?" in OOC. I have priorities when I'm healing: 1) ME. 2) Other healers in my group. 3) Other people in my fellow/raid. 4) Freeps that I know will be able to hold their own for a while after I top them off. 5) People who are being targeted that I feel sorry for. Absolutely at the bottom of that totem poll are hunters who come out to the Moors with 6k morale and no mits, then yell "HEAL ME" in chat. (Jonp can attest: I even gave him a rez limit.) Heals are a limited resource - I could spam four Mending Verses on that hunter and he'll still die once a minute. In the meantime, those heals could be used on someone who'll actually survive to get kills. IF I have the attunement and the inclination, I'll send a heal your way, cause I enjoy healing people. You never know - I could've had a laggy bubble when you died. If I wasn't planning to heal you, complaining in chat is not going to spur me to do so. And if I was attempting to? I will NEVER attempt to do so again.
The same goes for rezzes. First of all, half the time it's quicker for you to just ride back. Second, I have to drop combat to rez, which means getting out of attunement, which means no-one else on the field gets a heal.
And if I ever get another complaint from another freep about how my rez wasn't "good enough" because I lack the cappy/lm Turbine-guilt-induced-ooc-rezzes... I'll come over to your corpse, pretend to rez, then drop a runestone named "GoodRiddance" at the top of your head.
[b]Lythiea of Dwarrowdelf[/b], Member of [url=http://dd-asylum.info][b]Asylum[/b][/url] - R8 85 RK
[b]Alts:[/b] Selenicereus, 85 guard, Castria, 85 cap, Fiordiligi, 82 LM, Minilyth, 75 mini, and Lythfiler, r6 filer.