My advice is to find a group or hang with some people or a kinship who enjoys roleplay and loves Tolkien's works. My advice would also be to not expect others to find the roleplay you enjoy but for you to start it.
My kinship is a roleplay kinship that has been around for 7 years. We have light, medium and heavy roleplay plus just frivolous stuff for fun. No one person is responsible for all the roleplay that happens because we all are responsible. It does my heart good to see one of our members post on our website that the coming Friday there will be song and strolling in Rivendell for light roleplay purposes. I definitely support it by showing up. Or another member sets up conditions where we can meet and put on some more "heavy" roleplay while doing a certain quest. I take part in that too if I can. Our Kinship chat channel is roleplay too. We decided that we are present together in the kinship hall when we speak in that chat and things can get fun when we get some roleplay going there too. (it's not a palantir chat)
Many of us have written our backstory on our web site but in roleplay we don't feel the need to explain why a Man is in Imladris or an Elf is in The Shire. My Elves avoid Bree because I personally can't find a good enough reason to be there in the company of so many other races. But, others of the kinship who are Elves do go to Bree and may even roleplay there. We are in this game as roleplayers and we set ourselves up for the roleplay we enjoy. So go out and find it or create it. Send me an invite and I will be happy to take part if one of my characters has a reason to be there. I roleplay on Landroval and Laurelin, both have their strengths and weaknesses. I would love my kinship to join an alliance of roleplay kinships also.
[URL="http://s1.zetaboards.com/LeavesOfLaurelin/index/"]Leaves Of Laurelin - Landroval and Laurelin[/URL]
[URL="http://s13.zetaboards.com/Andunie/index/"]Andúnië - Elven music society - Laurelin & Landroval[/URL]
Makalaurë, Cotumo, Laurefindë, Witred, and Tulus!