Well, I'll rep my kin since I think it's awesome. I've been a LOTRO player for a long time, and have been in a couple of different kins, and I really like All Shall Fade. (I should mention that I'm not an officer, just a member who likes what he sees.)
All Shall Fade celebrated our 5-year anniversary in August (making us basically as old as LOTRO itself). We're a casual kin that focuses on making sure everyone has a good time and helps each other out when we can. We do scheduled raids and events for both low and high-level players, though we're not a hardcore raider-oriented kin. From a size standpoint, we have a lot of members, but I've never found that size to be detrimental, only beneficial. I think, from your description of your playing style, you'd like it here. :-)
Our only real weak spot is at PvMP. We do have a number of folks who do monster play (including me, at times), but it's not a majority of folks.
Check out our kin's website at http://www.shallfade.com/!
Georgion of Landroval (formerly of Nimrodel)